RS Recommends: The Best Sex Toys for Beginners
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We’ve learned a lot about ourselves by spending more time at home due to Covid-19. For many, one of these self-discoveries happened in the bedroom: more people than ever are experimenting with sex toys. If you’re still unsure where to start — or want to introduce someone special to the pleasure of sex toys — we’re here to help with some of the best sex toys for beginners.
Of course, hesitancy around buying a sex toy is totally understandable after the products’ decades-long taboo. But that taboo is quickly fading. The best sex toys are a healthy means of self-care — not to mention, fun. Some expert studies have found that oxytocin release, which happens during effective self-pleasuring, can reduce stress and even strengthen our immune systems.
Luckily for any newbies, there’s never been a better time to start experimenting with sex toys for beginners. High-quality pleasure products from established brands can now be delivered to your doorstep (discreetly, of course) through major web stores like Amazon and Ella Paradis. Because there is such a range of products, there are now far more sex toys for beginners — whether you plan to enjoy some time alone or with a partner.
What Are the Types of Sex Toys?
Jumping into the sex toy market can be intimidating, but, once you’re acquainted with the different kinds of sex toys, things get much easier. Below are a few major sex toy categories, for both men and women, that we would recommend understanding before shopping the best sex toys for beginners.
Vibrators/Dildos: For anyone with female parts, dildos and vibrators are the go-to, although vibrators are almost always better for most people. The phalluses are very straightforward: insert, vibrate on the clitoris, or insert and vibrate for G-spot stimulation. They can be used solo, or as a clitoris-stimulating supplement with a male partner.
Clitoris Stimulators: If you want something more compact, consider a clitoris stimulator. These small devices target the namesake area for non-penetrative pleasure and are good for couples’ use or alone time.
Masturbators: For guys, masturbators (a.k.a masturbation sleeves) are all you need (for the front, at least). They’re fairly self-explanatory, offering a soft, tight place to put your Johnson. Fleshlight is the most famous brand in this department — many colloquially refer to masturbation sleeves as fleshlights — but there are plenty of great options from other brands too.
Prostate Massagers: Dudes are (finally) understanding the pleasure that comes from butt play. Prostate massagers are the best way to do this, gently stimulating the male G-spot for more arousal, better erections and bigger orgasms.
Cock Rings: Perhaps the most common couples toy, the best cock rings allow men to achieve harder, longer-lasting erections by restricting blood flow (don’t worry, it feels fine). Some modern cock rings also feature a vibrator on top for extra clitoral stimulation during penetrative sex.
What Are the Best Sex Toys for Beginners?
Whether you’re looking to upgrade alone time or spice things up with your partner, there’s a sex toy to make that happen. Here are some of the best sex toys for beginners, including picks for men and women.
Best Beginner Sex Toys for Women
1. Frenchie The Double Entendre
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An incredibly quiet vibrator (less than 50db), The Double Entendre will keep you pleased, whether you’re looking for internal or external stimulation. It’s got a waterproof silicone build, up to two hours of use per charge, and a bendable design so it can reach your private places with ease. The one-button operation makes it easy to use too, and a great sex toy to experiment with solo or with your partner.
2. Luna Rechargeable Personal Wand
This discreet, highly-popular wand massager from Luna is a great entry point (no pun intended) for anyone new to sex toys. Materials are safe and soft to the touch with medical-grade silicone that’s waterproof for use in the shower. Vibrations are whisper quiet and diverse: you get 20 patterns and eight speeds for a customizable experience, ranging from gentle to intense.
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Buy Luna Rechargeable Personal Wand $24.95
3. Lelo Sona 2
If a clitoris stimulator sounds more your speed, go with this Lelo Sona 2. As with all of the brand’s products, the Sona 2 is a premium toy that’s as well-built as it is stimulating. The device’s mouthpiece uses sonic waves to excite, which means direct contact is not necessary. With 12 vibration modes, starting off at extra gentle, the Sona 2 is ideal for beginners. It’s also waterproof (made of ABS plastic and silicone) if you want to use it in the shower.
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4. Better Love Ruby Finger Vibe
Fingers are great, which is why we like this Ruby Finger Vibe from Better Love. The toy simply upgrades your digits with a tiny but effective vibrator for easy, discreet masturbation or partner play. The finger toy is made of soft jelly rubber and doesn’t vibrate too hard, making it another good choice for newbies.
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Buy Better Love Ruby Finger Vibe $38.74
5. Womanizer Duo Stimulator & Vibrator
This Womanizer Duo is, as the name suggests, two toys in one. It’s essentially a clitoris stimulator with an attached vibrator, taking care of the G-spot and the clitoris at the same time. Both parts can be adjusted individually with 12 intensity levels on the G-spot stimulator, 12 intensity levels on the clitoris stimulator and 10 vibration modes. In other words, whether you’re a sex toy beginner or a pro, the Duo is sure to deliver some satisfaction.
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Buy Womanizer Duo Clitoral Sucking Vibrator… $219.00
6. Dame Dip Vibrator
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This internal plus external vibrator costs just under $50 and is described as whisper quiet, meaning it won’t disturb your housemates and is super discreet. There are five intensities to try out, and since it’s made from medical-grade silicone, it’s also fully waterproof.
7. Satisfyer Power Ring
Cock rings are a great way for couples to make things more pleasurable (especially for her) and longer-lasting. We like this Power Ring from Satisfyer because it’s simple, well-made and features a clitoris-stimulating vibration unit on the top. Once erect, place the Power Ring at the base of his shaft and enjoy. There are ten vibration modes, and the whole device is waterproof for use in the shower or even submerged in the bath.
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Buy Satisfyer Power Ring $32.95
8. The Magic Wand
The Original Magic Wand has been around for decades (it was launched in the U.S. in 1968) and it’s still one of the best sex toys for beginners. Its design is straightforward: a four-speed motor delivers vibration through a soft, flexible silicone head, and the vibration speed can be adjusted using buttons on the device. It’s a fantastic, no-nonsense piece of bedroom tech, and it even works as a normal massager for sore muscles too.
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9. OhMiBod Lovelife Rev Finger Vibe
Ergonomics are important, as the best sex toys for beginners should be easy to incorporate into your personal time. This Finger Vibe from OhMiBod nails that easy-of-use with a loop that fits around two fingers and a soft, pulsating vibrator that rests in your palm. The toy is 100 percent waterproof, making it great for shower sessions, and it boasts five vibration modes for different sensations.
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Buy OhMiBod Lovelife Rev Finger Vibe $110.59
10. Emojibator Eggplant Personal Massager
As a first-timer, some sex toys can look downright intimidating. But not the Emojibator. Cheekily shaped like an eggplant emoji, the massager is approachable and lighthearted. Despite its humor, the vibrator promises serious pleasure (and serious orgasms) thanks to ten vibration settings from gentle to intense. The material, a medical-grade silicone, is soft and easy to clean under running water.
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Buy Emojibator Eggplant Personal Massager $29.00
Best Beginner Sex Toys for Men
11. Tenga Original Vacuum Cup
Not sure if you want to commit to a masturbation sleeve? Check out this Tenga Original Vacuum Cup. It’s a soft, disposable masturbator that features an air hole on top. This air hole can be covered or uncovered to control internal pressure for a sucking sensation. It also has a clever lubricating system that delivers pre-loaded lube to the shaft as you enter. When finished, just toss the whole thing out (and pick up a reusable masturbator if you liked the experience).
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Buy TENGA Original Men Masturbation Vacuum… $13.99
12. Fleshlight Quickshot
Fleshlight is famous for its flashlight-looking masturbation sleeves, but this Quickshot is equally as good — maybe even better for beginners and couples. Measuring 4.4 inches long, the compact sleeve features a soft interior with Fleshlight’s patented Superskin material. Because it’s shorter, the Quickshot is also great for upgrading oral sex. Plus, it’s waterproof and easy to wipe down afterward.
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Buy Fleshlight Quickshot $34.95
13. Tenga 3D Spiral
Here’s a great first masturbation sleeve for any curious guys. The 3D Spiral, also from Tenga, is a single piece of soft, reversible antibacterial elastomer. What you see in the picture — the spiraling nodes — are what you’ll feel on the inside. Just add some lube and you’re off to the races. After you’re done, the reversible, single-piece design makes cleaning very easy.
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Buy TENGA 3D Sleeve Spiral for Male… $29.69
14. Lelo Billy 2
If you’re ready to understand all the hype around prostate massagers, try this Lelo Billy 2. It’s the least girthy prostate massager from Lelo and features a tapered shape designed for men. This ensures easy, comfortable entry for beginners. Once inside, you (or your partner) can choose from eight vibration modes to stimulate the prostate.
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15. Aneros Helix Syn V
This Aneros Helix Syn V is another great prostate massager for beginners. With a slim build, getting in should be doable for everyone, and eight vibration patterns with three intensity levels allow for a customizable experience. It also has two arms at the base, which are meant to stimulate the perineum for extra sensation (especially once you’re erect).
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Buy Aneros Helix Syn V $104.78
16. Lovehoney Head Master Vibrating Blow Job Stroker
If you’re looking for a couples’ toy to elevate his experience, check out is this Head Master from Lovehoney. Fitting neatly around the bottom of the shaft, the small vibrating stroker compliments oral sex or handjobs with a soft textured sleeve and vibrating action. For the person supplying said oral or handjob, this makes your task a whole lot easier. Plus, it’s great for alone time too as a standalone vibrating stroker.
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Buy Lovehoney Head Master Vibrating Blow… $22.99
17. Tracy’s Dog Masturbator Cup
Masturbator cups, such as this one from Tracy’s Dog, are the classic male sex toy. Inside the cone is a soft, textured TPR material that, when lubed up, makes for a massive upgrade from your right hand. It measures a little under nine inches long, which should be more than enough for most guys, and both ends can open up for easy cleaning under running water.
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